I notice pretty much everyone just wants to drink and eat like shit every time they want to hang out.
Its fucking my shit up.
If i don’t hang out then I lose street cred with the homies.
If i hang out with the homies I can’t achieve my goals.
Are you able to hang out with people and firmly let them know you will not drink or eat?
Or do you let go of socializing to reach your fitness and health goals.
Or do you find better friends who play sports and support your choices.
Really need advice here.
A friend of mine used to be very sedentary. She had a health scare and started prioritizing her health. Slowly but surely most of her old friends are gone and they’ve been replaced with much more active people. It wasn’t intentional. And it wasn’t even a conscience decision. But when you start prioritizing yourself, those that are not with it, Will drop off
I wouldn’t say abandon your current friends, but making friends with goals that more similarly align with yours definitely would help. Sometimes that means not socializing for a while until you meet those people you can socialize with & keep to your goals. Also remember to be gentle with yourself if you do fall short, tomorrow is a new day to try again!
For my planned 21 day fast, I’m pretty much going to lock myself at home lol. I’ve typically avoided socializing (in person) when doing EF and that has worked out well for me. However, I really want to implement a healthier lifestyle in the new year, and eat only alkaline after completing the fast. I think I’m going to start a no restaurant policy and my friends will just have to be ok with doing other activities with me that don’t involve eating/drinking or atleast things where I can bring my own food. Health is the #1 priority at the end of the day!
You can sort of get around this issue with ADF, 5:2, or OMAD. Just gotta time your fasting right, or in the case of ADF and sometimes 5:2, if a social occasion comes up, just push the fast back a day, it’s no big deal in the long run. I call it incognito fasting, lol.
The goal of “hanging out” should be to socialize and have a good time, not to eat and drink. Keep that in mind and you will find it easy to join your friends and not necessarily have to partake. As someone else suggested, at a bar or restaurant you can order a soda water with lime or w/e and it will look like you’re drinking when you’re really not.
I hang at strip clubs with homies on water fast lol. Waitresses are like only water?! I say yup. No one questions a thing lol. Even when people are eating I’m just chilling and drinking my water. No one says anything and probably don’t think about it. I think people that fast care too much what other people think, when In reality they aren’t thinking anything.
Find better friends.
Find friends who either support you or think what you’re doing is a little crazy but hey you’re friends so they support you.
Join local fitness groups or fasting groups (perhaps even on here)?
If you’re a woman, there’s an app called Vine (I think that’s the name) that lets you find other friends interested in the same things.
Do you want to hang out with them? Then do it. Do you want to fast? Then do it.
I don’t socialize that much anymore in general but even when I was out regularly, I still had my fasting days where I’d stick to water at the bar, hang out with friends at a restaurant, etc. It’s not hard, you just need to set boundaries for yourself and stick to people who are willing to respect your boundaries
Anyone who isn’t willing to respect your boundaries isn’t someone worth keeping around anyway