My wife and I have made a deal: for every 2 days I fast, we can do the deed.

Have just finished day 2 of what hopefully can be a consistent routine of 2 days fasting, 1 day of not (but not like, eating a whole pizza). This is the only thing that might really encourage me, so I figured I'd share. A starting point and come back some time from now and see where I've ended up. Anyone think this is an unhealthy relationship dynamic? Idk, better than not getting any ever. SW: 280, GW 160. Long ways to go.

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I hope your new found motivator works for you, and wish you all the best on your journey. It is my strong opinion that sex is not a gift a partner doles out as a reward. My wife has joked, testing those waters a few times, and I’ve let her know my feeling, that sex is the physical manifestation of the love we share for each other. It is not a currency.

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This is so wrong. I wouldn’t pursue this path. Intimacy needs to be shared and mutual. Is she in shape and you’re not? Could she stand to lose a bit too? Just trying to get a feel for the dynamic and variables between the two of you. Is there currently mutual attraction?