I’m a 33 year old male, around 93kg last time I checked, and my height is 5’6 / 5’7.
I decided that this year will be that year. My wife and I were newly wed but because of the pandemic, we went with a civil marriage despite our roman catholic upbringing. Anyhow, our goal is to celebrate a church wedding sometime next year or next next year. So I really want to get in shape.
I don’t go to the gym and I eat what I want to eat. But I’m ready to change that… However I want to hide it from my wife. And it’s hard!
What’s the best approach to my dilemma? I eat at around 11am and 6pm.
Constantly have water with splash of lemon and electrolytes on hand; keep hydrated and explain you’re not hungry.
When she wants to eat outside of your window explain that eating makes you really tired so you’ll just have some black tea and coffee with her.
This is what I’ve done with my wife to make her feel less self conscious and be discreet with my fasting. Hope this helps! Congratulations on your nuptials friend!
Lol, OP is the guy from this commercial https://youtu.be/m97DTCagLLY
(Guy trying to fit back into his wedding suit as surprise while his wife thinks he’s cheating. Couldn’t find the long clip, the women on the escalator are fellow gym goers)
I hide IF from my kids because I don’t want my diet to impact the way they think about their own bodies. Skipping breakfast works well, since we don’t eat breakfast together on the weekdays. I often extend my eating hours on the weekends so we can have family brunch. Then you can say you don’t want to eat close to bedtime because it impacts your sleep.
Hiding it isn’t a good idea, you’ll probably need some support. And she will notice you skipping a meal/meals. BUT I promise you she will notice your body eventually if you stick with it. My husband has been singing my praises all week because I’ve been working out HARD for months and it’s just starting to pay off and look noticeable. I would def tell her about IF
Just skip breakfast and have an early dinner, most of the time. Eat and be social with her to avoid awkward social moments, you be the judge on how weird you are going to be. When you eat outside your window, stick to water foods if available : cucumber, lettuce etc or just simply avoid the carb however that goes.
She will notice the weight loss and ask questions. Be honest. If she doesn’t approve, be ready to educate her. Be vigilant, in determining if your behaviors are triggering for her, many people and women in particular deal with some level of body dysmorphia.