What’s really been helping me is having appetite suppressing techniques. Techniques are going to be catered to you so it might help for you to figure out what yours are. But for me when I first started intermittent fasting I was a late night eater because eating was comforting and helped me get ready to turn my brain off to go to bed, but when I started intermittent fasting I needed another consumable that I could have as part of my night time wind down so I would then have a diet ginger ale to help ease me into a restful state. As this got easier I started to not want the aspartame and carbonation of the diet ginger ale so I switched to hot tea which isn’t the only thing that helps me. Something that helps with my appetite when it becomes physically distracting is Psyllium husk. I put about a table spoon into a bottle a water and CHUG! From what I’ve read psyllium husk doesn’t break a fast and it makes you feel full which definitely helps for when it’s late and I have that overwhelming desire to binge.
I relate super hard to wanting to eat at night but then just realizing you want a consumable! I drink a la croix about every night and I’m trying to slowly change that into I just drink some water or tea. Good luck!